A white teen is stabbed at a Texas track meet.
The accused is Black.
And the national response? Insanity.
In this episode of Stay in the Gray Podcast, Ryan breaks down the case of Austin Metcalf and why stories like his vanish from headlines. From media fear to racial double standards, we examine how silence isn’t neutral—it’s part of the narrative.
🎙 Topics include:
– The Austin Metcalf case: facts, reactions, and what’s missing
– Why race impacts coverage—whether we admit it or not
– Cultural factors shaping youth violence and accountability
– The dangers of narrative-driven silence
This isn’t outrage. It’s observation.
🎯 Hit Follow if you think every victim deserves an accurate headline.
Time Codes
00:00 - Introduction and Initial Thoughts
01:53 - The Incident: A Closer Look
04:17 - Media Coverage and Racial Dynamics
06:25 - Details of the Altercation
08:39 - Public Reactions and Defenses
17:06 - Socioeconomic and Cultural Factors
19:42 - The Problem with Youth Reactions
20:46 - Media Bias and Political Agendas
23:02 - The Role of Culture and Environment
23:45 - False Accusations and Dangerous Rhetoric
24:26 - The Impact of Disrespect Culture
25:12 - The Tragic Consequences of Violence
29:43 - Addressing the Root Causes
36:15 - The Need for Courage and Compassion
38:05 - Final Thoughts and Call to Action
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It is not a coincidence that I have seen every single issue,
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every single opinion on this that defends Carmelo Anthony are
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black people. Why is there this need to defend
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a killer? And I'll say because of race.
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It is not a coincidence that there everybody that has said
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innocent or or not innocent, but he self-defense he we're being
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too hard on him. These people are black.
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That's not a coincidence. Why is there a need to defend
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this behavior? And it happens with all these
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cases that happened with the incident on the subway with
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Daniel Penny. It happens that there is this
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need to defend criminals. And I'll say it again, there is
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no scenario where stabbing somebody is the answer.
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It's cowardly. It's taking somebody's life.
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You've become a murderer, age 17, and your life is over as
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well. What needs to change?
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It's simple. There needs to be courage.
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Courage from journalists, editors, public figures to
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Hey everyone, this is going to be a, an intense show.
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It's one that needs to needs to happen for me personally and
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hopefully for some of you. I took a step back after the
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incident occurred and tried to give it a couple of days to sit
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on it, to research, to wait for more to come out.
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And this is a story about a a gentleman here close to home for
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me about 30 miles away in Frisco, TX.
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And this gentleman stabbed another gentleman.
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And these are high school kids. They were a track meet and an
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altercation broke out and one student felt like it was OK to
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just stab the other student to in the altercation.
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Everybody's likely heard this story.
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So I'm I'm not going to give you the news as much and I'll give
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you the basics in a second, but I want to approach this in a
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whole different way. But here it is.
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So April 2nd, this was last week, 17 year old student named
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Austin Metcalf was stabbed by a student from another school,
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both Frisco high schools but another school down the way and
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his name was Carmelo Anthony. And I know that is an NBA old
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NBA player So I was confused for a second.
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But Austin Metcalf is a white boy was a white boy of 17 and
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Carmelo Anthony is a black boy aged 17.
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And Austin's death didn't become some national outrage.
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It didn't spark the same coverage that it would have
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otherwise sparked under different circumstances.
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Why? You all know where I'm going
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with this. The alleged killer is black, by
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the way. The killer himself said I'm not
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alleged. I did it.
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The victim is white. And when the racial dynamic
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occurs, the media often goes quiet about that.
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Reverse the roles and they're anything but.
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It's not about demonizing anybody.
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It's it's about asking why we're afraid to talk when the when the
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facts don't fit this clean narrative.
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What is the fear doing to real people, real communities, real
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accountability? Welcome.
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Stanley Gray, let's get into it. Here are the facts.
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Austin Metcalf was stabbed by another teenager, Carmelo
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Anthony, like I mentioned, during an altercation at
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Kuykendahl, I think I said that right stadium in Frisco, TX.
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Both were in the same district but different high schools.
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And it was a a track meet on a Tuesday at 10:00 in the morning.
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And I believe it was Tuesday. Yeah, the 2nd of April, the
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police released the suspect's name, They charged him with
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murder, and the Frisco ISD issued a statement about grief
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counselors being available and all these types of things.
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But when you zoom out and look at it, there's a little bit of a
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void here. Nobody wants to talk about it.
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This wasn't news like you would see otherwise.
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If the alleged murderer was a white boy who stabbed a black
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boy, What do you think? How would this be portrayed a
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lot differently? And there's nothing wrong with
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saying that. That's my whole point of this
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show. We have to stop walking on egg
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shells about these topics. I'm trying not to get fired up.
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I sat on this for a couple days, like I said, and all it did was
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make it worse. I thought, let me calm down.
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Let me take a step back on how this is being approached.
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The motive had nothing to do with skin color.
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I'll stand behind that. It's not like Carmelo Anthony
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said, hey, Austin is upsetting me.
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He's white. Here's my opportunity.
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There's First off, no way to really know.
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Only Carmelo would know that. Second, that's not what I'm
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talking about. What I'm talking about is the
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reason for his reaction, why he felt that was his only option.
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Why did he have a knife in his backpack to begin with?
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Why are so many people now ready to jump and defend the killer?
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And that's what I want to talk about.
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There's a belief that in my opinion, avoiding racially
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sensitive stories, that we're avoiding avoiding harm.
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We are avoiding offending people.
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We're avoiding lumping a group of people together that might
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endanger them more, but when the media selectively covers stories
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based on who the perpetrator is, it doesn't build trust it it
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breaks it in my opinion. There's been crimes where races
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are reversed and they get all this national attention.
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Like I just mentioned, protests, op eds.
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But Austin's story is just looked at in a whole other
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light. Just somebody tragic event,
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thoughts and prayers, all the families involved, This is sad.
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Grievance counselors and on and on.
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And then tomorrow or next week, we'll move on to the next.
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And this hasn't happened completely like I thought it
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would. And that's why when I say that
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things have gotten worse in the last couple days, that's what I
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mean. For some reason, this story has
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sparked more debate. And guess what?
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Races in the center of it, Why people will point at me and go,
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well, look at what you're talking about.
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I'm not talking about the color of the skin igniting Carmelo.
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I'm not talking about his the need for him to resort to that
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being because of the color of his skin.
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I'm talking about all the variables that surround a
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culture in life. What does it say to the victims
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families or his family? I mean, or, or victims families
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and all when it comes to this type, this topic, you're
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basically telling them, sorry, but it is what happened.
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It is what it is and no steps are going to be taken to help
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prevent it in the future. And that's what I want to do.
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I want to help figure out what the problem is and why this
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keeps happening within a certain certain culture.
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So I looked through 20, probably more, 20 different publications,
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big and small, and I was trying to find if, if any of them had
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the balls to straight up list the races, the ethnicities of
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these kids in the story. And of course not, not a single
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one. I did national, the very popular
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ones, of course, CNN, Fox, NBCI did small publications.
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I did local here in Dallas, all kinds and not one of them said
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it. Now you'll look at me and go,
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well, there you go. That's the point.
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We're not, we're not. We don't want to say it.
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It shouldn't matter, but you're avoiding it.
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Case in point, CNN, the lovely CNN who I thought, I thought
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they were getting a little bit better, but this is tough.
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So they list the story. High school kid stabs another
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high school kid at a track meet over dispute on the chair the
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where he was sitting. And I'll I'll give you that
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information in a second. I forgot that two stories below
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that CN NS headline was the following gunman from racist
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attack in Texas Walmart in 2019 enters A plea and it goes on to
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say Cruces who is white and 21 years old.
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And then it goes on into the article.
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The killer in this story was white.
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And they let us know the story right above that this one, no
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mention at all on either side. Why.
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That's all I want to know. And until we address the why and
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what we can do to help it, this is not going to stop.
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It is not OK. What happened?
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I will just lead with that. So here's what happened.
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I forgot that part of the story. Apparently at this track meet,
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not apparently. You can see it in the pictures.
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Each school has a tent set up for those athletes to rest
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together underneath. And I think it was a drizzling
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out as well. So yes, students were seeking
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out shelter, if you will. This young man, Carmelo Anthony,
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was in the wrong tent. He was underneath it, sitting in
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the chair. Austin Metcalf, I apologize.
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Austin and his family. Austin Metcalf approached
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Carmelo and said, hey, dude, you're in the wrong tent.
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By the way, I am Privy to someone who was there and Privy
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to the person who actually called for help.
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So I'm aware of what happened and I know what happened better
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than half the people who are spouting off.
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Austin wasn't necessarily the nicest.
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Was he a Dick? I don't think it may be that far
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but but he could have been. Then he asked him to leave and
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of course Carmelo said, you know I'm good, I'm going to go ahead
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and stay. And of course Austin said hey, I
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don't think so, this is our tent.
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Carmelo grabbed his backpack and put his hand in and said touch
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me and find out what happens. Of course, Austin, I guess,
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grabbed him by the shoulder to lead him out.
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Some people say they grabbed him by his shirt and Carmelo
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proceeded to pull a black knife out of the bag and stab him.
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Once in the heart, he dropped the knife and he ran.
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The person I'm talking about that I know of through mutual
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acquaintances, chased him across some railroad tracks into a
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field where the perpetrator stopped and began walking.
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When authorities arrived, they grabbed Anthony and led him
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away. Of course, Anthony said, you
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know, can this be self-defense? The office officer that was
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leading him away called in and said I have the alleged killer
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or the alleged defendant. And he looked at the officer and
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said not alleged. I did it.
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So he admitted to it. And apparently he got in the cop
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car according to police and and he and he asked if Austin was OK
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Nice of him. So that's the story.
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The bottom line, before I talk about anything else, is that it
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doesn't matter whether Austin Metcalf was being an asshole.
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It doesn't matter if he grabbed a kid by the shoulder.
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There is no incident that can happen where stabbing Austin is
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OK. No way, nothing, unless Austin
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had a weapon of his own and was going at it.
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But if somebody grabs you, either handle it like a man and
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push back or get out of there and go tell somebody.
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In this case, there's nothing to tell you were in the wrong tent.
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But you can say, hey, he he laid his hands on me.
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If you want to get back at him, that's probably the way to do it
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because he probably would have faced some sort of of of
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punishment from the school or whatever if he was instigating a
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fight, but you stabbed him and you killed him.
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His twin brother watched him die in his arms will no longer have
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him for the rest of his life. His mother and father will no
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longer have him the rest of their lives because he was not
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nice to you. He touched your shoulder and
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asked you to leave. The reason that I'm talking like
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this is because in the last two days, I have seen a bunch of
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stories where people are defending the killer.
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And it is not a coincidence that I have seen every single issue,
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every single opinion on this that defends Carmelo Anthony are
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black people. Why is there this need to defend
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a killer? And I'll say because of race, it
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is not a coincidence that there everybody that has said innocent
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or or not innocent, but he self-defense.
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He we're being too hard on him. These people are black.
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That's not a coincidence. Why is there a need to defend
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this behavior? And it happens with all these
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cases that happened with the incident on the subway with
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Daniel Penny. It's it happens that there is
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this need to defend criminals when they're black.
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I don't see any white criminals you defending any white
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criminals that do would do the same thing.
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Can you imagine if these roles were reversed and Austin Metcalf
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stabbed Carmelo Anthony in the exact same situation?
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What would these people say? Would they make a GoFundMe page
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that says justice for Carmelo Anthony?
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Would it say justice for Austin Metcalf?
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That's a real thing. There's a GoFundMe page trying
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to raise money for a killer. The hashtags are justice will be
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served, justice for the guy who stabbed the other guy, not
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justice for the victim. And call Carmelo Anthony a
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victim all you want because he was taking a little bit of Flack
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from a guy who just wanted his own school's tent to be freed
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up. He's not a victim.
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Get over it. Everybody's talking about being
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a bully. They didn't even know each
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other. I think you need a little more
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than that to be a bully, to bully somebody.
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I'm getting tired of that word as well.
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It's being misused and it's downplaying true bullies, real
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bullies. I'll repeat it one more time.
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It is not about the motive when it comes to skin color.
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It's about the variables that surround the culture, why people
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are defending him, why the media is scared to talk about it.
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I'm not talking about why Carmelo did it being based on
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race. I'm talking about why he grew up
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and thought that was the option and thought that that was the
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action to take and why people are defending it.
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So let me be clear, I'm not suggesting that that race causes
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violence. I'm not saying that black people
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just, you're born black and you're violent.
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I'm not saying that I meant very, very strongly to not come
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off that way. It's a lazy take and I'm trying
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not to be that way. And it's just not true.
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Technically, if you want to talk about youth violence, especially
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involving young black men, you, you have to go deeper than just
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pretending it doesn't exist. It does.
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It's about disinvestment. It's about father absence,
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neighborhood trauma, failed policy opportunities that have
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been there that haven't been grasped.
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Somebody close to me believes highly in the socio economic
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influence in this. And you know, my response was
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there are all sorts of of races that have socio economic issues
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and the statistics point that one over the other tends to be
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more violent. You know, Austin's family was
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interviewed right away. Austin's story was told that I
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didn't hear. And we finally heard from
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Carmelo's dad. Of course he's saying Camaro is
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a good kid. He wouldn't have done this
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unless you absolutely had to self-defense, blah, blah blah.
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Obviously, I don't expect his father to take any other sides
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than that. But your son killed somebody,
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and your son brought a knife to attract me.
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Why? Why did you do that?
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And I challenge you, Sir, the dad who's probably younger than
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me, to analyze that, to try and figure it out.
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And I know it sucks. Your life's likely ruined by
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this, but so is Austin Metcalf's family.
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This here's the section that I'm going to go over and I'm going
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to have to take a deep breath because it is very difficult for
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me to talk about this because about how upsetting it is.
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What was said from the Carmelo Anthony side right away was from
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other black students at his school, which is Frisco
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Centennial High School. They immediately defended
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Carmelo with a post like the following.
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Back story, broken phone. That was the other part.
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Apparently Carmelo's phone was broken in this conflict.
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That isn't something that hasn't been confirmed or I haven't.
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I don't know 100%, but apparently that happened.
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His phone broke. Back story, a broken phone
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quote. I hope we learned a valuable
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lesson today. Don't break people's stuff and
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you still be alive with three laughing emojis.
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Keep your hands to yourself, little man.
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If anybody isn't infuriated by that, it'd be better.
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You're the problem. If you think that these kids
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responding like that isn't a red flag for this type of behavior,
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especially with incidents in the future involving these people,
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then I challenge you to rethink it.
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This is not good. This is not OK.
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They're laughing and saying maybe you shouldn't have broken
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the phone. If sporting a competition and
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their team won this event because their teammate killed
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the opposition, why are they proud?
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They're proud of it. That is a huge problem.
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And those of you that don't think that it's a huge problem,
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wow, look in the mirror and think about what you're saying.
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Quit with the progressive bullshit that you feel like you
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have to spout for two seconds. Just stop it and think about the
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facts and think about what we're reading here.
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This is not OK. It took me going to the Times of
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India. I'll give them a nice plug to
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bring a story that brought both sides in.
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That brought the story that I just gave you about the kids
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from his school. This was the only completely non
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biased publication, I guess in the sense that it tried to talk
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about all this as well. None of the other publications
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had the balls to do it. Times of India did and they gave
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me a lots of stuff. So how about this?
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How about this asshole? This person posted the
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following. If you see a Trump supporter
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being upset about Austin Metcalf just ignore them.
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They're willingly raising their voice more about this white kid
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in Texas more than over being fucked by their president day in
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and day out. RIP Austin but fuck all you who
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support a rapist felon. I'm trying to reduce my name
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calling but this person fill in the blank not only brought a
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Donald Trump into this. You mean to tell me that
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everybody that voted for Donald Trump thinks that Austin is
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should have been killed and everybody that didn't thinks
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that Carmelo is an innocent man or that he had the right to do
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it? This is the most absurd take
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I've ever heard for anything. I'm baffled beyond the fact that
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Donald Trump has never been convicted of rape.
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So you're falsely labeling, which is dangerous.
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I've talked about that many times in a show.
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False rhetoric is not smart. The felon you just like to you
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like to call him that, but you've made this political
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literally to the highest level of our country when it has
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absolutely nothing to do with it.
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When I thought about this story, I did I go, wow, I voted for
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Donald. I've got to think about it this
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way. No.
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And some of you will say, oh, I think you probably no stop it.
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This is so ridiculous. There was another one here that
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Austin Metcalf's death is being used as a political tool for
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race by you people when the motive is purely a mental issue
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around temper. OK, here we go.
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At least that's a little bit better.
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And I believe that temper and a mental issue has something to do
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with it. But I also believe that the
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culture and his surroundings as a child also had to do with it
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and continue to to 'cause these types of issues more and more
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and more on a larger number for black youth than than others.
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And I'll get there. This was about a fucking phone,
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not racial hatred. Again, never said it was about
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racial hatred. I said the reaction of everybody
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is due to racial hatred. And we have bums like Jason
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Whitlock, who I'll talk about in a second, and Colin Rugg using
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the death to cater to a racist audience.
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Again, accusations, false accusations based on nothing.
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It's dangerous when something like this happened and that's
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what you respond with. So there's a black columnist
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Speaking of. He just mentioned him, Jason
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Whitlock, and he's known for calling out his culture.
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He's doing what I wish more people would do, which is take a
00:23:54
strong stance and be a powerful black man in the community and
00:23:59
help the youth by calling out what's going on.
00:24:04
He thinks, he said on his YouTube live show that there is
00:24:08
something called a black diss culture, and that's what killed
00:24:13
Austin Metcalf. What he's saying is this culture
00:24:16
is when young black men primarily believe that nobody
00:24:20
can disrespect them and that they should avenge any kind of
00:24:25
disrespect. Was Carmelo disrespected #1 He
00:24:30
was in the wrong tent. He brought the knife.
00:24:32
Was he disrespected? Maybe.
00:24:34
OK, But when you use the word avenge, obviously he thought
00:24:41
stabbing him was the answer. And I'll say it again, there is
00:24:45
no scenario where stabbing somebody is the answer.
00:24:48
It's cowardly. It's it's taking somebody's
00:24:52
life. You've become a murderer at age
00:24:54
17 and your life is over as well.
00:24:57
What happened to the good old days when you just go, you know,
00:24:59
try and punch each other by the bike racks?
00:25:02
What happened to that? What happened to to these things
00:25:06
where you push each other, you get upset and then you you walk
00:25:08
away and, and that's it. People are killing each other
00:25:11
over this stuff. It's this guy lost his life
00:25:14
because he walked up and said, hey, can you get out of of our
00:25:16
tent? He lost his life.
00:25:20
Both of these students, both Carmelo and Austin, were Four
00:25:23
Point O students in high school. They both played football and
00:25:26
they both had opportunities to play at the college level.
00:25:31
Life was going in the right direction for both of these kids
00:25:35
until one of them felt like stabbing the other.
00:25:39
And I want to know why he felt like stabbing the other was the
00:25:42
right thing to do. But other black men of
00:25:46
influencers are coming out. There's a Terrence Williams and
00:25:48
Officer Tatum and some of these other ones are very upset that
00:25:51
black people are defending Carmelo.
00:25:55
He's saying it makes it makes all of us look bad as black
00:25:59
people in our race and and it's again, hiding the problem.
00:26:05
So there are some people out there who are agreeing now this
00:26:10
is what I'm going to get to really quickly.
00:26:12
I mean, I've got to kind of get rolling here.
00:26:13
I'm I'm, I'm just so kind of stunned by all of this.
00:26:18
There is an absolutely ridiculous posts by by I believe
00:26:24
he's affiliated with with with Black Lives Matter.
00:26:27
Forgive me, his name's Tariq Nasheed and I don't even want to
00:26:29
plug this guy, but he put a post in that literally says a rewrote
00:26:38
the headline or rewrote the article of the story.
00:26:41
A suspected white supremacist. So now Austin Metcalf, a 17 year
00:26:45
old, is a white supremacist. Austin Metcalf, pictured here
00:26:49
with his twin, allegedly demanded honor student.
00:26:54
Which is fine, he is, but so is Austin.
00:26:56
So Austin's a white supremacist and Carmelo gets the honor
00:27:00
student label. The guy who stabbed him, by the
00:27:03
way, he demanded that that honor student, Carmelo Anthony, give
00:27:07
up his seat like it was the Jim Crow era.
00:27:10
Carmelo defended himself from an alleged threat.
00:27:13
The Daniel Penny case set this precedent.
00:27:18
So they're blaming Daniel Penny again, who saved a train from a
00:27:22
guy saying he was going to kill everybody, a criminal that had
00:27:25
42 counts. But again, Daniel Penny was the
00:27:28
one to blame, of course. And now this person is claiming
00:27:32
that a high school white supremacist felt that he had the
00:27:35
right to bully another child, knowing full well that I guess
00:27:39
being stabbed back is is OK. It is beyond me that these
00:27:44
people can write this and sleep at night unless they themselves
00:27:49
are true racist back towards white people and that and I
00:27:52
don't doubt that that's the case and I'm just saying I'm calling
00:27:54
it like it is. There's no other reason that
00:27:56
these people would say this. Again, the rules are reversed.
00:28:00
What's this tweet? What's this post that the roles
00:28:04
are reversed? The exact same thing happened,
00:28:07
but but Austin had dark skin and Carmelo had light skin.
00:28:11
That's all you have to think about this, this other post, you
00:28:15
know, again, this is the justice will prevail, justice for the
00:28:18
killer. A respectful well, man or young
00:28:22
man? Well, both of them apparently
00:28:23
were, according to witnesses, 4 point O student.
00:28:26
Both of them were a kid with 0 criminal history, both a son
00:28:30
raised in a loving home by parents who taught him right
00:28:32
from wrong. Do you know that if he was
00:28:35
taught right from wrong, he would not be carrying a knife to
00:28:38
attract meat and he wouldn't stab somebody?
00:28:41
Come on, a life was lost and that's tragic.
00:28:46
Yeah, you seem real broken up about it.
00:28:47
But what's also tragic is the way the media is twisting the
00:28:50
story to fit their agenda. If anything, the media is not
00:28:53
reporting it correctly. They're scared to.
00:28:57
Carmelo defended himself against violent aggressors.
00:29:01
That is not a crime. I beg to differ.
00:29:06
First off, asking you to move from a tent and put pushing you
00:29:10
out of it is not violent aggressors.
00:29:13
I have to pause. I just, I just hashtag stand for
00:29:17
Carmelo with a fist. Free Carmelo.
00:29:19
Stop bullying. Stand your ground.
00:29:22
We want justice. I mean, is this fucking real?
00:29:25
Are you serious? This is not going to end.
00:29:27
This is not going to ever end until you take some
00:29:30
accountability and you try and help the youth in this
00:29:34
situation. I want to help the youth and yet
00:29:37
I'm called the racist. I want this to stop.
00:29:41
How about this? A 2023 CDC report showed
00:29:45
homicide is still the leading cause of death for black males
00:29:49
ages 10 to 24. That's not a narrative, that's a
00:29:54
crisis. And we're failing the kids by
00:29:57
avoiding the conversation and by this kind of nonsense that
00:30:01
people are posting in defense of somebody stabbing somebody else.
00:30:05
The Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention,
00:30:09
OJJDP in 2023. This is the breakdown of youth
00:30:14
arrests for violent crimes. White 3800, Hispanic 3022,
00:30:23
American Indian 271, Asians coming in hot at 127 and blacks
00:30:30
at 6434. That is double the 2nd place
00:30:37
which is the white. White youth makes up 45% the
00:30:43
blacks the black youth 15% yet committing 50% more, 100% more.
00:30:53
Sorry I'm not I'm not a math major. 6000 to 3000 basically
00:30:58
with only 15% of the of the populate youth population.
00:31:02
That is an issue that isn't skewed because of authority and
00:31:06
because of all this nonsense. And even if it was, it's not,
00:31:09
it's not skewed to this to this amount.
00:31:12
These are statistics. This isn't just my opinion.
00:31:15
This isn't just me being racist like you want to say.
00:31:18
This is the these are statistics.
00:31:22
Why are they so high? Is it socio economic?
00:31:26
Is it a culture thing? Is it growing up and seeing
00:31:29
brothers and cousins and uncles and fathers do these things and
00:31:35
try and justify them because of a victim mindset?
00:31:39
Poor me. It's not my fault that I'm being
00:31:42
treated this way. The only thing I can do is lash
00:31:46
out, defend myself. Is that what's happening?
00:31:50
I used to do volunteer work, some in high school, some in
00:31:53
college, where I would go to the lower income schools or daycare
00:31:59
centers, depending on the age. And I would sit down and spend a
00:32:04
couple of hours every Wednesday, or I'm thinking of one in
00:32:08
particular, different days of the week and read to these kids,
00:32:13
talk to them, just ask them about their day.
00:32:16
Occasionally I go outside and kick the ball around, throw the
00:32:18
ball around, it's baseball, and just spend some time with them,
00:32:23
making them feel like somebody cared about them.
00:32:25
And I did, every single one of them.
00:32:28
It must have been 20 to 30 kids that I met with throughout that
00:32:32
time. One of them, his name was Trey.
00:32:35
He was 8 years old, little chubby black kid.
00:32:39
And he was, he was awesome. He was just incredible and had
00:32:44
the best attitude despite his life.
00:32:46
Because what he would tell me is that his mom was always asleep.
00:32:50
His mom had all sorts of, you know, white powder laying
00:32:53
everywhere. I mean, it was almost like he
00:32:55
was trained to code the truth. I mean, that it was almost too
00:33:00
obvious the way he was saying it.
00:33:01
And he's 8. His dad ran off.
00:33:03
I think he said his dad was in jail.
00:33:04
This was this one particular one.
00:33:06
I heard many stories that were like it.
00:33:09
And all you can do is tell him to go home and believe in
00:33:13
himself and to know that he can be something and just that
00:33:18
people care about him. And the last day I saw him, I, I
00:33:22
didn't know how to, I mean, I said the same stuff over and
00:33:25
over again, but I wanted to leave more of an impact.
00:33:27
And now he's probably, you know, in his 20s and I don't know, I
00:33:33
don't know where he is and what he's doing.
00:33:35
And I really just hope he was one of the ones that, that got
00:33:38
out of, of his situation and made something of himself.
00:33:42
And I know it's hard to get to every child, but we've got to
00:33:46
try. More mentors, more fathers
00:33:50
staying in the home, more siblings and relatives who are
00:33:56
not in gangs. A belief in we're not the
00:34:02
victims. We can go take advantage of
00:34:04
opportunities. Let's be something.
00:34:08
How do we do that? I don't know.
00:34:10
But we need to talk about it instead of ignoring it.
00:34:13
Instead of calling somebody like me a racist for bringing
00:34:16
statistics to our attention, how about we try and go, whoa, these
00:34:22
numbers are here. There's a reason for it.
00:34:24
Let's try and help instead of sweeping it under the rug and
00:34:29
pointing fingers and defending murderous behavior.
00:34:35
All right, It's I've gone on on Ramalan trying to, to, to skip
00:34:39
through a little bit here because it's it's kind of a
00:34:42
little bit of a of over and over.
00:34:45
But basically you all know what I'm going to say.
00:34:48
I mean, when it comes to the pattern involved, there's a
00:34:52
pattern, OK, 2020 113 year old stabbing using stabbings here.
00:34:58
Logan Smith in Florida or 2022 Ethan Lyming was killed in Ohio.
00:35:03
Violent deaths, young white teen victims, black perpetrators,
00:35:08
minimal coverage. I didn't even know who these
00:35:11
people were until I read this, until I looked it up.
00:35:17
Flip it now. And I know that there are other
00:35:19
issues with these big names, but Trayvon Martin and Ahmad Arbury
00:35:23
and George Floyd, these, these were national crisis.
00:35:27
These were, these were murals and statues being being put up
00:35:33
for people that were criminals who were killed because they
00:35:39
were black. I understand the the police
00:35:41
issue and that had something to do with it.
00:35:43
But again, you're glorifying criminals.
00:35:46
You can come down on Chauvin, the the police officer, George
00:35:50
Floyd, or, or, or whoever was involved in killing these
00:35:54
people, but to glorify the victims who were criminals
00:35:58
themselves isn't going to do anything.
00:36:01
All it's saying is it's about race and it's just not.
00:36:06
I mean, obviously there are racially driven hate crimes and
00:36:10
that's a different story. This was not one of them.
00:36:12
What needs to change? It's simple.
00:36:16
There needs to be courage. Courage from journalists,
00:36:19
editors, public figures to report the facts.
00:36:22
Some like I just gave you. There are lots more that we can
00:36:26
dive into as we help. I know they're uncomfortable.
00:36:32
There needs to be compassion. People will say, well, you're
00:36:35
not showing that. I beg to differ.
00:36:39
All I want to do is help and talk about how to help.
00:36:43
That's compassion. Ignoring it and defending
00:36:47
killers is the opposite. You think you're showing
00:36:51
compassion. It's misguided, but the
00:36:56
compassion to talk about the youth in a way that doesn't
00:36:58
reduce people to race, but it doesn't ignore the patterns that
00:37:03
are there either. That's the better way to say it.
00:37:06
Let's talk about the culture, about broken homes, schools that
00:37:11
are failing. Education has gone just way down
00:37:16
in the last 20 or 30 years. Hopefully they're going to work
00:37:19
to fix that. There are mentors that are
00:37:22
missing, fathers, you know, male influences in their lives.
00:37:27
People are probably scared to go and and deal with this.
00:37:30
I don't blame them. Talk about trauma and anger.
00:37:33
The kids who feel like they have nothing to lose, which is what
00:37:36
it's all about. That's how we help.
00:37:39
That's how we honor victims like Austin.
00:37:42
Who if he's being an asshole, damn it, Austin, why'd you?
00:37:47
Why were you an asshole? I don't like to hear that
00:37:49
either. But you didn't deserve to die.
00:37:52
And so hopefully we can honor the loss without making it about
00:37:57
racially driven act, but also without without pretending that
00:38:02
race isn't in the room. Because it is.
00:38:05
This episode was a little uncomfortable.
00:38:08
Good. It should be, and it might
00:38:11
continue to be as we talk about it.
00:38:13
But until we're brave enough to have that full conversation
00:38:17
without tiptoeing, screaming and shutting down and pointing
00:38:22
fingers falsely, nothing's going to get better.
00:38:28
You just think about it. Thanks for staying in the Gray.
00:38:30
Love you guys.